This is YOUR life

do what you love, and do it often
If you dont like something change it.
IF you dont like your job quit.
IF you dont have enough time , stop watching tv

IF you are looking for the love of your life stop
they will be waiting for you when you start doing what you love
stop over analyzing life is simple
all emotions are beautiful

when you eat, appreciate every last bite
open your mind,   arms and heart to new things and people.
we are united in our differences
ask the next person you see what their passion is and share your inspiring dream with them  

travel often, getting lost will help you find yourself
some opportunities only come once , seize them
life is about the people you meet and the things you create with them , So go out and start creating

Live your dream and wear your passion

life is short


  The Holstee manifesto courtesy of Avi G

Taste and See

It is better to see it, then to hear about it
It is far better to experience it then to believe in it.

If you have never tasted a piece of chocolate cake, and I am holding a piece in front of you, no matter what I say to you I can’t explain the experience of the chocolate cake. Some people don’t taste foods, they say they don’t like sushi but they never tasted it. You must taste it for yourself.- Rabbi Osdaba

You can’t explain color to a blind man.

When listening to a good public speaker, we hear a story we believe in, when listening to a great speaker we see the story and experience it personally.

Some things in life can’t be fully explained, they must be experienced.
God is one of these things.  

A lesson from Lost

                        Mieux vaut faire, et se repentir / Que se repentir, et rien faire

The 99th episode of the series Lost is titled Some like it Hoth. The title comes from the hit comedy film Some like it hot and the ice planet in Empire Strikes Back, Hoth. In the episode Hurley is  back in the 70’s and decides to write Empire strikes back and show it to George Lucas because star wars has just come out and he wants to save him some time.

We see Miles back story in this episode. Miles has a special gift, he can communicate with dead people if he is near the body. In the episode a father wishes to tell his dead son that he loves him. He contracts Miles to speak to his dead son, however because the son was cremated he cannot speak to him. Miles lies and tells the father that he told his son he loves him and collects his fee.

A few years ago I wrote a letter to my Aunt to thank her for the cookies she baked me in camp. My Aunt passed away surprisingly in her 50’s.  I never got a chance to give her the letter. I don’t know why, maybe I was shy or I did not think it was a priority. 20 years ago I was waiting in the hallway in school for class to begin. A Rabbi walked by and a bill fell out of his pocket, again I am not sure why but I said nothing, a minute latter someone else came in and picked up the bill.

In life  we cannot be shy and we can not hesitate when we have something to say. We should always share our positive feelings of love and appreciation to everyone we see. You never know what can happen. Life is finite, people and opportunities will not be around forever.

At 17 years old Lilo Brancato was spotted swimming at Jones beach by a talent scout. He landed his breakout role in the directorial debut of Robert Deniro in the film A Bronx Tale. He also appeared in several Sopronos episodes.

Twelve years later at the age of twenty nine he was arrested in the Bronx for attempted robbery and he is currently in jail. Another tale of a child star whos life spun out of control because of money and drugs. The twist is the line he himself uttered in his breakout film.

Lilo Brancato in the film a Bronx tale says:

“I learned to give love and get love unconditionally. You just have to accept people for what they are, and I learned the greatest gift of all. The saddest thing in life is wasted talent, and the choices that you make will make your life forever.”

Lilo is sitting in prison now, maybe going over what could have been and what he could have done, he has time to think.

The book the Diving bell and the butterfly was written entirely by a man confined to his bed , blinking one letter at a time . Jean-Dominique Bauby is the author and he suffered from locked in syndrome.  He could only move his left eye the rest of his body was paralyzed. He was the former Editor and chief of Elle magazine and because of his condition he had nothing but time to think about.

The book is stories about Bauby before he has a stroke and suffers from his condition. In one story he is told about a fix in a horse race and he tries to make it to the track to place a bet on Mithra-granchamp. He missed placing the bet for his entire office.

“The memory of that event has only just come back to me, now doubly painful: regret for a vanished past and, above all, remorse for lost opportunities. Mithra-Grandchamp is the women we were unable to love, the chances we failed to seize, the moments of happiness we allowed to drift away. Today it seems to me that my whole life was nothing but a string of those small near misses: a race whose result we know beforehand but in which we fail to bet on the winner.”― Jean-Dominique Bauby

At the end of the episode Some like it Hoth, Miles returns to the father who he ripped off. He gives him his money back and tells him the truth that he was unable to speak to his son. Then Miles tells him, “If you wanted your son to know that you loved him, you should have told him when he was alive.”

Never miss a chance to tell someone you love them. Never miss a chance to try something new or tell someone thank you, or to step in and do what’s right .

                         It's better to act and to regret / Than to regret not to have acted.

Day 1, one day

Day 1 : I have sampled every type of happiness from avocado to zoo’s . After years of travel within my living room I have compiled a 365 day tip sheet for happiness.
Tip: compile a record of your vacations, triumphs, friends and holidays combined using digital pictures. Create a snap fish book for a friend or family member and give it to the person.

Our experiences, emotions and the past itself dwell in our memories. We access and create memories using our senses, smell is the strongest sense tie to memory.  Emotional experiences as well, will create vivid  memories and emotions  or sometimes  repressed memories.  

Time is constantly moving forward, steamrolling the present in to the past. All we have of it is the fleeting glimpse memory provides. Memory blisters and fades.  It is gone forever, the past, because of  its finite nature derives its ultimate value.

attitude of gratitude

If you have food in your fridge, cloths on your back , a roof over your head and a place to sleep you are richer then 75% of the people in the world

If you have money in your wallet, money in the bank and some left over, you are among the 8% of the wealthiest people in the world.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the agony of imprisonment and torture, or the horrible pangs of starvation you are luckier then the 500 million people alive and suffering in the world today .  

If you can read this message then you are luckier then the 3 billion people who can not read in this world.

(compiled from various info graphics from the web)

THANK YOU 

ARABIC - SHOOKRAN - SHOOKRAN jAZILIN , bARACH ALAHU FEEK

HEBREW- TODAH , TODAH RABAH

Russian- Spasiba

French- Merci

spanish - gracias

Yiddish- A dank

A smile is always in style.

To John and Pool

We can define happiness, We must

I apologize for taking so long to answer back. I have been researching the field of happiness alphabetically for the past four months, everything from apples, beer and candy to x-rays, yelling and zoology.  

Smiling, Laughter, Humor, Comedy.

I can not define what causes people to be happy, but there are basic universal aspects to happiness that we see both vertically (across the globe today) as well as horizontally (thru history)  This is the condition we will call “Happiness” It involves a biopsychosocial  state of mind.

just because different things make different people happy does not mean the actual experience of happiness is not similar for all. Some people like apple flavored beer with candy others like giraffes, they all experience similar brain patterns and chemical reactions as well as physical states  when enjoying these things.

Happy happy, joy joy

In Response to John 

Happiness is a broad term which covers several different concepts. Each state is accessible independently, they also work together. Maslows hierarchy of needs is a good example of a hierarchy of happiness. I can only speak about happiness I have experienced. 

 

1. Pleasure - Physiological side to happiness: Experiences of something pleasing to our five senses. Eating a good meal, the song smile.. makes me smile. Thanks to modern inventions (CAT and PET scan to name a few)  and advances in the field of neuroscience , we can now quantify chemicals and brain regions that are involved in happiness. Animals also experience this level of happiness. 

Specifically the nucleus accumbens, the hypothalamus, Dopamine and endorphins are another example of physiological signs of happiness. These chemicals and happiness it self are of a different nature. They have a connection but it would seem the experience of happiness creates these chemical reactions. They are connected as sheet music and a symphony are. The note on the page is not the Music itself, but it is deeply connected.   

 

 

Ben Franklin - "The constitution only gives you the right to pursue happiness you have to catch it for yourself."  

2. Joy - A different level of happiness is related to temporal emotions. That is how you feel over time, as well as feelings concerning the past, present and future. Basically happiness of memories or anticipation of future events as well as present current emotional states. 

  Duration,is also a factor for example:  laugh for a second , have joy your whole life. 

3. Existential happiness- 

 Goes beyond ourselves and our individual physical existence. Connected to companionship, friends and family, grandparents. People that are happy to be created, for some people it is there mantra, they are happy they have another day, this is a high level of Happiness. It is  connected to choice, perception and appreciation. It is rooted in self esteem and a  sense of purpose.

 

Happiness is a perspective anyone  can choose to cultivate every day. 

Time Tangent

In reply to Rosco


Who controls the past now controls the future, who controls the present now controls the past. 
    Eric Blair 


Two different camps 


Tensed Theory of time:  Time flows like a river . The past is set, and the future does not yet exist. The present  is the instantaneous point where the future becomes the past. This is the common perception of time. What is real: past,present or future is not clear. Time is like a tree. 


Tenseless Theory of time: Time is just like space, it is just another dimension.  Just as NY , London and Moscow all exist so to your birth, reading this sentence and your death are all equally real. It is called a  block universe. 


If the future is unreal then it can not effect the past . The  view on time held by many in the field of quantum physics is the block universe. Both are true, this allows for a weak determinism, which gives just enough room for free choice. 




Life is like a game of cards.  The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free will.  ~Jawaharlal Nehru

Existence and Choice, Suicide and Happiness

There are several different reasons why Humans choose to commit suicide.

Accidentally shooting yourself in the face is not what I consider

suicide. (However there is a gray are for other behaviors.)  It is

difficult to understand  the intentions of humans very well, let alone

animals and other species. Humans often commit suicide because of

physical conditions, for temporally related emotional reasons, for existential reasons or combination of all of them and various other reasons.

All of these specific reasons for suicide are deeply rooted to sources

of happiness.

Life and Death are as close as we can get to eternal universal, objective truth in the physical realm. The science of medicine has clear definitions of life and death (again, gray areas do exist but clear cases are the norm)Good and Bad- Ethical judgments, are more subjective terms and happiness and sadness are even more subjective.

What do we control?

-  In the film castaway the main character realizes that the only choice he has is deciding when he will die. People often feel they have no control over life and happiness and that is why they commit suicide. Victor Frankel is a psychologist who survived the holocaust. He wrote a book called Mans search for meaning. He believed that we have free choice in terms of our perspective on life. This is the single most important question in all of philosophy. Do we have free choice in terms of our own happiness? 

What do we not control?

 -As I mentioned in the last post, If we come in to existence. Nature and Nurture. We can not control the country we are born in or the parents we will have. We can not affect our inherited genetic traits. From a strictly materialist perspective (the physical world (matter) is all that exists and everything in this world is a result of physical interactions) Some would say we do not have control of anything. Our choices are a result of our specific brain chemistry, this is a strong argument, many commit suicide because of physiological reasons. 

Robots and Rabbits do not have free choice.

The first step to having free will is believing you have free will. If you don’t believe you have it you don’t have it. As Isaac Bathsheva singer put it “We must believe in free will, we have no choice”. Animals and machines are preprogramed. 

The decision to exist, to do good and to be happy are the most elemental aspects of human existence.

 Daniel Dennet, in Elbow room gives the example of a loose determinism. An example he gives is that of a dog with a leash attached to it connected to a wagon.What choice does he have?  We are all attached to the train of history being dragged on by something we did not create. What we can create is our attitude. The dog can choose to strut along proudly or to be dragged by its legs.

Lose of control, actual or perceptual is at the root of many suicides for a reason. People see life and death, an objective measure,  as there only choice. The only thing that makes them feel alive is choosing to die.

Happiness is something we choose to cultivate every day

What is happiness ?  See the next................




We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.”  
 - Victor Frankl

Happiness is a warm Gun .

(Excerpts from a lecture I delivered at Oxford University in thirteen ought six)

Sir !  Sir ! please put down the fire extinguisher and stop yelling your point has been  acknowledged , now please take your seat and remove your mask .

As I was saying, I believe it is a logical impossibility to have a choice in the matter of your own personal existence.   If you do not exist you can not make the choice and if you do exist then the choice has already been made. However there is a choice you can make once you exist and that is to continue your existence. To my knowledge no other animal on the planet has the capability of committing suicide.       

  

  This is one of the unique aspects of human existence.  We can self terminate.

This Freedom and ability is at the root of happiness. But always remember, it is the fruit not the root.

First we must define our terms.

why  is  everything awesome ?

A few  quick reasons
There are millions, this is half of what the Blog is about, I would like to hear your reasons.

1. Technology     

A- Makes our life easier :  for thousands of years people traveled  on horses and ships. I am amazed at the MTA in New York and how easily I can travel from qns to Manhattan. Under water! for $2.50. without getting wet.

B- Increases knowledge:  Galileo was one of the first to effectively use the telescope to observe the universe, technology has played a key role in our “standing on the shoulders of giants” as Hawking put it in his book on Galileo.  Later the power  of computers and then super computers were used , creating a  telescoping of  knowledge. The Apple Iphone is more powerful then the rocket that took the first men to the moon Galileo observed. The  speed of information has grown faster in the past 200 years then in the last 2,000. I am amazed by  the fax machine, people travelled for months and years to deliver a message across contents , now all I have to do is press a bunch of buttons.


Related to technology is

2.  A   Longer life span  - for most of human history the average life span has been no greater then 35 to 40 years, by the end of this century the average life expectancy should be double that.

This is amazing!   we can  combine this with the speed of information and we have the chance to  learn more about the universe, ourselves and each other then any other generation. This is what I think awesome is .    

Name of Blog

This Blog is based on a You tube video from Louis CK, My friend adam enbar told me about , check it out

It is about the unappreciated.  It is about the amazing

It is about happiness .

I was at a Met game once and some one was taking a picture with a big lens, I asked him how it works, he started laughing , he said you just push the button. I said no how does it take a picture, he said oh I dont know.

I stick to nonfiction.

The only difference between reality and fiction, 
is that fiction needs to be credible." 
— Mark Twain